Found a nice article (:
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Whatever the case, it is clear that crying lessens the depth of grief, whether as a result of lowering stress levels in your body or the sympathy it gets you.
That's the good news.
The bad news: The fact remains that crying does not solve anything.
You cannot cry a problem away. Whatever it was that caused you to be sad - a broken heart, an illness, betrayal, loss of money - does not disappear even if you had wept buckets.
It's the same as going on a holiday to 'cure' a heartache.
What I've learnt is that no matter how many hours you spend gazing at the ocean, no matter how many times you trace the name of your beloved on sandy beaches, no matter how many mountains you climb or meditation sessions you attend or frenzied hours of shopping you embark on, nothing changes when you come back. A loss is a loss is a loss is a loss.
So what is one to do when the pain in your heart hurts as bad as a physical gash? How do you cope when you are so sad you find it hard to breathe, when the future looks futile and you wake up crying?
Acute sadness debilitates the mind and body, but there are ways to fight it.
Some say the key to a happier life is to lower your expectations: Aim low (or don't aim at all), and appreciate what you currently have instead of dreaming about hitting the happiness jackpot in the future.
Others point out how reconciling with loss and sadness can take several forms.
You can, for example, choose to devalue what was lost so its absence becomes less haunting.
You can analyse the loss at length to delay having to come to terms with it, or you can memorialise it and subsist on mementoes and memories.
You can also deny the loss and live in the past, or you can blame everything and everyone around you to lessen the guilt you might feel for the part you played in the heartbreak.
You can even find a substitute for the loss to help you forget.
But the best advice I've read is this: you can accept the loss and reconcile yourself to its reality.
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so many things have been happening but I haven't had the time to post about it! D:
reminder to self -
post about : results, Grad, O's, pigs outing, FAM! etc. by next week.
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